What we have been taught by the family, by the society or by the church is based almost exclusively on the outside world of our being. Due to this way of looking at the world and upon ourselves we seek explanation on everything that happens to us, outside of ourselves.
Most of the times when it comes about our failures, we seek explanations outside of ourselves, trying to find only external causes that led to the failure.
Our culture doesn’t teach us to look inside our inner selves. Everything points to the circumstances in our lives. For each one of us there comes a moment in life when we start to look inside of ourselves. This moment happens mostly when we have suffered a major loss (divorce, job, even a loved one).
To look inward having such an education is not easy. It requires a certain degree of courage to be true to oneself and to perform self-analysis. In my opinion, when one delves into deep self-analysis then the person becomes more mature.
Through self-analysis we receive something really important, that can be of a great use in life: we accept ourselves, our essence as it is “not perfect” and from this point forward we can accept others that wronged us with better and clearer understanding.
Also through the same self-analysis one learns to love oneself. Apparently self-love is something that we all have. In reality most of us don’t love ourselves. We are very harsh, dissapointed and unhappy all the time with ourselves.
Gaining the self-acceptance and self-love leads us to love and accept the others, as they truly are “not perfect” as ourselves.
A harsh and critical parent with his child will only create the idea that his child is not good enough and unworthy of love. When his time will come, this child will become the same harsh and critical parent with his child, this way propagating the idea of not being worthy of love. The fear of wrongdoing paralyzes our actions most of the time.
The courage of being “not perfect” comes very hard, but it turns to be a big gain for each one of us. With a objective point of view self made analysis one can learn that life circumstances weren’t determining our path but only our choices did.
Circumstances don’t matter, only state of being matters – Bashar
The way we chose to act upon a certain situation will define the consequences of our actions. If we get to the point that we feel as victims of life then we’ll blame the life itself for what’s happening. Instead if we choose to move on and pass the situation we’ll win because we choose to act upon.
Active versus passive. To act upon leads to co-creation of beneficial situations. To remains passive leads to nowhere.
Last but not least through self-analysis we attain forgiveness. Forgiveness of oneself brings forgiveness of others and life situations. The acceptance, love and forgiveness of oneself and the others bring tranquility and balance to our lives in order to enjoy everything that surrounds us.
These three wonderful things attained through self-analysis will bring us joy and the power to meet our lives with an open heart, with a heightened sense of good, of beauty and Divine Grace that surrounds us.
In forgiveness lies the stoppage of the wheel of Karma – The Law of One